Why women date other marrieds?
Chat about a loaded theme that no one wants to speak about, this is it. Amusing thing, extramarital affairs have been going on ever since ancient times. Affairs can be fraught with troubles, cause misery, and other harms. Also you have to wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty issue, funds, age dissimilarity, faith background, shame, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this post I shall identify an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, married man date.
Why do married people have extramarital affairs? There are as many answers as there are men seeking affairs. I am conserned mostly though it is just the human condition, the need for care, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
Naturally we as humans are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and fun, and sex makes us flee the world for a brief period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Some people are able to switch the desire on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another human being, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos society has erected against extra-marital affairs. For many people the yearnings will defeat their worries and make them risk the wrath of not only their family, but the public also. So why, what is the means?
Sex Addicts, possibly some of us are. Sex is terribly good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically driven sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not hurt your family or anyone else? You will need to reduce the danger you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the largest group, enormous truly. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, apart from they are happy in the way they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Also there are the kids to think about. Your money are so entangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay jointly besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that prevent them completing the sex act, at least not with their othere half. An marital affair from time to time solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage whole.
Avoidance, sadly this is a ordinary cause I fear. One or the other, usually the man is sexually neglecting his woman for a multitude of reasons. As a male I truly am grateful to you guys neglecting your ladies and making them obtainable to us guys of romance, making them “hot wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, maybe it is a lack of love, maybe caring is not here, could be it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Could be we have just developed distantly, our ordinary interests diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is conflicting of what you want. Maybe I just don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they search for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for economic gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.